And, sadly, it will probably relate for years to come just as it has in the past. We women say these things to ourselves in the form of negative self-talk.
Our friends and families have said this to us, our teachers, our peers, our colleagues, our employers, our significant (or maybe past INsignificant others have done so).
Maybe we've had a doctor or therapist even say something like this to us. Hell, maybe even our kids have done it and said things like this to us.
Society, the media, the infamous and insidious "THEY" have drilled these sorts of messages into us -- and I'm sure we've all had a moment or even more where we've done it to someone else, whether it was to someone female or male. And whether or not we are willing to admit it to ourselves else or not.
The blog post I am speaking of is from here: http://thecurrentconscience.com/blog/2011/09/12/a-message-to-women-from-a-man-you-are-not-%E2%80%9Ccrazy%E2%80%9D/#more-361
And here is a quote from the post:
"Those who engage in gaslighting create a reaction—whether it’s anger, frustration, sadness—in the person they are dealing with. Then, when that person reacts, the gaslighter makes them feel uncomfortable and insecure by behaving as if their feelings aren’t rational or normal."
The post focuses mainly on men who do this to women but, frankly, it's done by a lot of people to others, regardless of gender. Though I will say I have experienced a lot of it in previous romantic relationships.
So, since I am still sick and, apparently, spending most of my day nauseous, with a fever and frequent trips to the bathroom doesn't allow much time for any other issues to arise because the rest of the family is treating me with supreme kindness and doing their best to keep it quiet and peaceful around here (other than some short-lived tantruming this morning from my son) I don't have much else to report.